Hi, my name is Keya Edwards, I am a qualified counsellor, working with adults and couples. I am committed to making a difference to my client’s lives and offer a warm, non-judgemental, compassionate and confidential counselling service in Stockport and Manchester. No two therapies look the same and as a qualified integrative counsellor I will draw on a combination of Person Centred Therapy (PCT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Transactional Analysis (TA) to tailor our work together to suit your unique needs.
I like to a build strong and secure relationship with my clients, one based on trust, where you are fully free to be yourself and feel safe to discuss any difficulties you are facing. Whether that's Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Trauma or anything else that is having an impact on your quality of life, my aim is to support you whilst we explore what’s happening, gain insight as to why, and by working together, help you overcome these issues and bring positive change. Together, we will look at your patterns of behaviour, attachment styles, your needs and how you communicate these, learn about your coping strategies (do you abandon yourself, shut down, are you a chronic people pleaser, are you living in survival mode) explore the root of these and whether they are helpful to you or getting in the way of you living in the way that wish to. Whatever it is, counselling can help and I will provide a warm and supportive environment where you are seen and heard, in confidence and without judgement.
I have lots of experience of working with clients from all backgrounds with a wide range of reasons for seeking therapy. Everyday I work with people going though the most difficult of times and I believe that through the connection we build and the work we do together you will have a better understanding of who you really are, have compassion for yourself, feel more connected to others and have a sense of your purpose and direction in life.
First of all, anxiety is a normal part of being human and all of us experience it from time to time. It becomes an issues when anxious feelings and thoughts start to overwhelm us and become more and more frequent. Physically, this might feel like - fast heartbeat, breathlessness, jittery, sweating, light headedness, tiredness. Mentally, this might feel like you are always 'on', unable to relax/switch off, you might doubt your ability to cope, feel weak or not good enough, negative thoughts might start to take over. These are just a few, there are many more/different symptoms which will differ from person to person.
If you are or have experienced the above, you are having a normal reaction to a situation in which your brain perceives a threat. The above behaviours are our brains attempt to protect us and seek safety - cute right? Nope!
Therapy can help us to gain insight into why we feel a certain way about certain things - we will discover triggers and the the roots of the anxiety, once were able to make a bit more sense of what's happening for us in these moments, we are better equipped to challenge it. This means looking at our own thought patterns, our beliefs around ourselves, our own ability to overcome, and how we behave as a result of these thoughts. Speaking to someone about how you feel (like really feel) can be a terrifying thought but I am hear to listen to your unique experience, I can give a different perspective, some coping strategies but more importantly, a real deep understanding of who you are and what your needs are.
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This is tough isn't it. If you are going through this, I'm so sorry. This isn't just the sense of feeling low now and then, this is a constant battle with self that impacts on quality of life and ability to live in a way that we'd like to and to feel fulfilled, content and connected. Life becomes smaller and when our attempts to 'fix' it fail, we tell ourselves its hopeless and become stuck in this loop - all the while reinforcing our belief that we are not strong enough, don't have the skills and even, don't deserve to overcome/feel happier. Our negative narrative and inner critic are living their best lives at our expense!
Depression can be debilitating which can look like, not being able to get out of bed, not showering, pushing people away, not looking after ourselves but it can also look like we are happy, confident and the life and soul of party - we can become skilled at covering up how we really feel for all kinds of reasons - one might be fear...of rejection, of not being heard, not being understood or accepted in our time of need - which can validate the sense that something is wrong with us that we cant change this and even trying is hopeless.
Talking therapy gives you the time and space to talk about how you truly feel, you know, all those painful thoughts that you may have never said out loud before, these might even be things you are trying to hide from yourself because its too scary to actually go there... avoidance and suppressing will not make these things go away - we know this don't we, but sometimes its just easier isn't it.
Come and talk it over, lets face these things together, I will accept you and meet you where you're at - no need to hide the parts that you feel aren't acceptable.
Here's the thing, grief isn't just reserved for the bereaved. Grief has a much bigger reach and comes up when we experience any loss. This can be the loss of a job, a relationship, the idea of who you thought you or someone else is, the loss of what you thought your future looked like, when adult children leave home - are amongst some of the triggers for experiencing grief and grieving. Within each of these examples there can be a real feeling of being lost, overwhelming sadness and feeling stuck, not knowing how to move forward or pick up the pieces You might be telling yourself that you shouldn't be feeling this way over such a 'small' thing and that you need to pull yourself together which in turn might bring up some feelings of shame and weakness because you are not quite managing to overcome this.
Guess what, you're allowed to feel emotion! In fact, we are allowed to feel whatever comes up for us in difficult times. We might be battling our natural response to a distressing situation all the while telling ourselves were failing at being 'normal'.
The lack of permission to feel is a common theme around grief but the reality is that there is no time line, no tick box list - which can add to the feelings of being lost. We need self-compassion, lots of self-compassion - easy right, we know all about being compassionate don't we? Sure but can we apply to ourselves... for some of us this can be extremely difficult. firstly, we might not have been shown how to, secondly, we not believe we deserve softness and thirdly, we might be telling ourselves the situation 'shouldn't' be this big of a deal.
Lets look under the layers of grief together and start healing.
This is a humanistic approach that deals with the way in which individuals perceive themselves consciously, rather than how a counsellor can interpret their unconscious thoughts or behaviour. Created by Carl Rogers who believed we all have an innate tendency to develop towards our full potential, but that this ability can become blocked or distorted by certain life experiences, especially those that affect our sense of self worth. This approach will explore what lessons life has taught you about you and whether these beliefs that you hold towards yourself are actually true. By working in this way we aim to reconnect you with you, your inner values and your sense of self worth. This nurtures the personal growth and the relationships of a client by allowing you to explore and build confidence in your own strengths and personal identity. Another factor of this approach is that it allows you to keep control over the content and pace of sessions.
This is a talking therapy that is designed to explore a clients personality and how it has been shaped by experience, in particular, those stemming from childhood and how egos states show up in how we express ourselves. This approach is used to analyse how we communicate and identify what might be needed for better outcomes. Working together the therapist and the client build a positive relationship which provides a model for subsequent relationships and communication outside of the therapy space. This approach allows us to identify what has gone wrong with a clients communication and provide opportunities for them to change repetitive patterns that limit their potential. This encourages an understanding of individuals, communication and relationships and is particularly useful where there are areas of conflict, confusion or where something is lacking.
Another talking therapy that helps to manage problems by encouraging you to recognise how your thoughts can affect your feelings and behaviour. This looks at the way in which our thoughts influence our behaviour - the belief is that if we can change our thought patterns, we can change our response to these thoughts and in turn, change the way we feel about life. While this approach is based in the present, working with current concerns, past events and experiences will be considered. This looks at any negative thought patterns you might have, how they impact you and what can be done to change them. This approach helps you to make sense things that might feel overwhelming by breaking them down into more manageable parts; thoughts, feelings, actions and even the physical sensations, how they are connected and how they can keep you stuck. Working this way can help gain perspective and start to break the negative cycle.